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The Doctor Awaits: Getting to the Root of Why You Really, Really, Really Don’t Want to See the Doctor

Most people don’t love going to the doctor. It’s right up there with changing the cat litter, and dinner with your mother-in-law. Yet, we all have to do it, and for those of us with PCOS, we have to do it more than usual.

The first thing to do when you’re in major dread mode about visiting your physician is to ask yourself WHY? Is s/he always running late? Is the staff rude? Parking expensive? There’s always some issue with your insurance? The office is kind of funky? You aren’t treated with respect? You just know you’re in for bad news? You’re afraid of pain? You didn’t drink enough water, so there’s no way you can generate a urine sample, and someone’s going to make you feel like a failure because of it? The phlebotomist should be sent to remedial phlebotomy class?

What’s going on? Is it something you can do something about? If so, fix it. Change your appointment time to one where the doctor’s less likely to be late. Tell the doctor her receptionist treats you like dirt. Call in advance and speak to someone about your insurance. Drink the water. Wear the right clothes, so you don’t have to get undressed just to get a blood pressure reading.

Or is the problem so minor that, if you’re honest, you know it’s just an excuse? If all the medical offices are in one plaza, you’re going to be stuck with the extortion (oops, I mean, standard parking fees). So you hate modern, plastic offices and prefer antiques. Does this really affect the quality of medical care? Yes, paper gowns are ill-fitting and awkward. Are you going to change doctors so you can find one who uses cloth? Sometimes the things we focus on are just not the real problem.

Or perhaps there’s something more serious. If you want an hour with your doctor, and they only schedule 20 minute appointments for your type of problem, are you setting yourself up for irritation? Or you’ve had some medical trauma, and anything in a medical setting just makes you anxious and irritable. Quite often, it’s bad news we fear, being chastised for failure to lose weight, improve our blood pressure levels, or getting our fasting glucose numbers under control. If this is more along the lines of the real issue, it’s time to give it some attention, and see what else is going on that prevents you from taking the best possible care of yourself. Remember that doctors aren’t magicians – they can only work with the material you give them.

Gretchen Kubacky, Psy.D. is a Health Psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles, California. She has completed the inCYST training. She specializes in counseling women and couples who are coping with infertility, PCOS, and related endocrine disorders and chronic illnesses.

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The Doctor Awaits: Getting to the Root of Why You Really, Really, Really Don’t Want to See the Doctor + mental health